I woke up this morning with a smile on my face and praises in my soul despite the barking that was causing me to wake up at 5:30am (Again! Good morning Maverick…our foster puppy.) Last night, it was officially announced that our good friends are getting to adopt a new and precious little boy and my heart is celebrating! This amazing couple have been pouring into my sweet Michaela for years. They were her Sunday School teachers at church every Sunday morning from ages 2 to 7…and trust me…some of those years (specifically 2 and 3) were not easy. This couple has come and picked M up to take her out for ice cream, they have shown up at her school to eat lunch with her, they have been “her people.” When we have had family conversations about who our “safe grown ups” are…you know, the people that the kids could answer the door for or leave in a car with…this couple has been up there on the list with the grandparents! I am so excited for them and am bubbling over with joy for this couple…I am praying that Stan and I will be able to pour into the life of their precious little one in even a fraction of the way that they have poured into Michaela.
I guess my musing this morning has several seemingly random points (none of them are political…so please don’t turn this into a debate.) The first point is that we each have the ability to change lives in deep and lasting ways. My friends have done that for our family and I am praying that their community of friends (ourselves included) will all do the same. To me, raising a child is an over-whelming and scary thing…but that is replaced with hope and joy and blessings when people reach out with open hands and love each other well.
My second point is that blessings often come through the sacrifice of others. I am specifically thinking of the birth mother right now. I’m praying that God will heal her body from delivery and her heart…as I imagine she is filled with mixed emotions. Between hormones from pregnancy and delivery, the joy she must have at finding a beautiful and loving family for her baby, and the grief I am sure she must be experiencing at saying good-bye to a baby that she has lovingly carried inside her for months…I have not met her but I am sure she is an emotional mess right now. I am praying that God would honor her sacrifice and bless her for the love that she has shown this baby and my friends…this was no small thing she did…it is beautiful and selfless and deeply loving…and my soul leaps joyfully inside me when I think about it.
My third, and final (and lesser) point, is that I have many friends who would refer to all of this as karma…I would whole-heartedly disagree with that. Yes, this couple is amazing and now something amazing is happening to their family…but I think that is a blessing from God, not karma. See, karma would indicate that they somehow deserved the years of not being able to have the family that they have dreamed of. Karma would indicate that the birth-mother deserves the emotional and physical turmoil of giving up her baby. Karma, in theory sounds nice, until it is applied to real life situations: rape, incest, molestation, murder, bullying, and abuse of all forms would all be “deserved” if karma were true. I do not believe that anyone deserves to be a victim…I do believe, however, that God sustains us through trouble and blesses us in life…so with that, I reject karma. However, if you believe in karma, I don’t reject you…there is room for us to civilly disagree and even discuss these things.
So how are you doing with these things? Are you pouring into the lives of others? Are you involved in a community that serves each other selflessly? Have you ever been the recipient of selfless and life-changing sacrifice? How might you sacrifice for the benefit of others? Are you giving our loving God credit for the blessings in your life? How can you practice gratitude for your blessings?
Today, I am praying for my friends and their new baby boy as they begin a new journey in life. I am praying for the birth-mother and asking God to honor her beautiful example of selflessness and sacrifice. I am praying that we would all serve others around us and change lives (and the world) for the better. Much love friends,